Farhan Shah
“Don’t aim for success; if you want it, just do what you love and believe in, and it will come naturally,” says David Frost.
This our parents need to know.
Knowledge is very important for everyone. Everyone in this universe wants to choose a field in which he is interested, to excel in it. As a child grows up he too starts thinking about what he wants to do, setting a fixed goal for his life. But parents and relatives force many of us to do otherwise, to see us become what they want us to.
Our wishes and interests do not matter, it seems. What parents decide for a child, often with a pre-thought course in mind, is final, no matter whether the child is interested in it or not. Certainly, up to a certain age we may not decide what is better for us. But then parents should also understand that we need to be given the freedom to decide for ourselves. They should be happy in what their children get by pursuing something that they are passionate about.
But here, society plays an important role in shaping our futures. When our parents see that other children have become engineers and doctors, they get us to follow in their footsteps. But they need to understand likes and dislikes vary from person to person.
They need to understand that we have to do what we really love to do.
Parents and relatives force many of us to do otherwise, to see us become what they want us to. Our wishes and interests do not matter, it seems.
When a students opts for a subject which he loves to study, he will excel. In Kashmir, only two streams are preferred – Medical and Non-Medical; either engineer or a doctor. But do we know the scope of these subjects is getting lesser day by day. We have little knowledge about other streams, although some are definitely breaking the shell.
But if a child is forced to go against his interests, no doubt he will do that, but he will always remain depressed.
He will not live his life fully. He will think about his future; in other words his future will be ruined and his life will be wasted.
We have came to this world to live, and to live fully, to gain more and more, to discover more. But when a child does something that is not appealing to him, and only to fulfill his parents’ wishes, everything becomes a burden.
So let us do the good that we love, and see success unfold.
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